It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of taking care of others, isn’t it? Life can feel like a constant balancing act between being there for your loved ones and keeping your own well-being in check. And let’s be honest—sometimes, it feels like you’re always the one doing, doing, doing. Giving your time, your energy, your love… to everyone but yourself. But here’s the truth we all need to hear: It’s okay to be selfish.
Yes, you read that right. Selfish. Let me explain.
The Caretaker Struggle
As someone who deeply cares for others, it’s natural to get lost in the caretaking role. We’ve all been there—focusing so much on making sure everyone else is okay that we forget about our own needs. We tell ourselves, “I’ll get to me later,” or “They need me right now.” But here’s what happens when we do that: we lose ourselves. We forget that you are the most important person in your life. If you can’t take care of yourself, how can you possibly be your best for those you love?
Your well-being matters—more than you realize. And I get it. There are days when you feel like you’re running on empty, barely keeping up with everything that needs doing. But here’s the truth: You need to take care of yourself first. Because if you don’t, you’ll burn out. You’ll be left with nothing to give.
Self-Care Is Not Selfish
Here’s the deal: self-love, self-care, and putting yourself first are not selfish. In fact, they are necessary. It may feel strange at first, but it’s so important to realize that you have yourself before anyone else. You are your own biggest supporter. You need to have your own back. If you’re constantly caring for others and neglecting your own needs, you’ll eventually lose yourself in the process. And when that happens, you’re left wondering—where are you?
Imagine living half a life—doing everything for everyone else and nothing for yourself. What’s the point of that? You’re doing yourself a disservice by ignoring what makes you happy. And when you ignore your happiness, the weight of everyone else’s expectations will eventually crush you. That’s not the life you deserve. You are worthy of love and care, especially from yourself.
The Pressure of Expectations
It’s easy to get caught up in the pressures of what other people want from you, but here’s the thing: when you don’t prioritize yourself, you start to crack. You start to feel the weight of everyone else’s demands, and that pressure can break you down. You might even start thinking you’re not good enough. But I’m here to tell you—you are enough. You deserve to feel worthy.
If you feel like taking time for yourself is selfish, that’s a bigger problem than just self-care. It’s a sign that you’ve lost touch with your own self-love. If you can’t see your worth, you’ll never be able to fully embrace who you are. But when you realize your worth, your life transforms. You create your own reality, and you have the power to choose to love yourself more.
Time to Shine
Think about it: after all the time spent living for others, it’s your turn now. You’ve given so much to those around you. Now, it’s time to give to yourself. When you prioritize yourself, you’re not being selfish—you’re being powerful. You’re choosing to show yourself love, and that makes you a better version of yourself.
When you love yourself, you sparkle. Your energy shifts. People around you can see that you’re glowing—because you’ve found that inner peace and joy. And when you’re happy, you give others permission to be happy, too. That’s how self-love works: it spreads. It’s not selfish; it’s magical.
The Radical Power of Self-Love
When was the last time you truly took a moment just for yourself? Not for anyone else—just for you. The world moves at such a fast pace, and it’s easy to forget how important it is to just slow down, breathe, and reconnect with who you are. It’s time to start embracing radical self-love. You matter. You are important. You deserve happiness.
Take charge of your life. Be inspired by the wonders around you. I try my best every day to live with excitement for what’s to come. Even in the little moments. Because I’ve learned that it’s not about waiting for something big to happen—it’s about creating the energy and momentum that pulls you towards your dream life.
Living the Life You’ve Always Wanted
I used to think that my dream life was impossible. It seemed like something far off—something out of reach. But you know what? I’m on the path to living it now. I’m living proof that you can find the motivation to change your life and start living the way you’ve always wanted.
If I can do it, so can you. And I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to wait any longer. Start believing in yourself today. It’s your time. Now.
I believe in you. We’re in this together, and we’ve got this.
Thank You for Sharing This Time
Thank you for spending this time with me. The 31-day channel journey has been a blessing, and I hope you’re walking away with a renewed sense of purpose. Take these words to heart, embrace your inner power, and start prioritizing yourself. You’re ready to shine.
Remember: You matter. Your dreams matter. And it’s your time to make them happen.
Always remember, You are capable of amazing things, and You are worthy of your wildest dreams!
Until next time, friend!
XOXO,
Valerie
Your Doula & Transformation Coach 🌿
