Hello friends!
Welcome to the first episode where I invite you to take a peek into my world as a doula. As a doula, I support families through labor and delivery, but my role doesn’t stop there. I also walk alongside new parents during the postpartum period—a phase that’s often called the fourth trimester.
Yes, you heard that right—the fourth trimester is as real and significant as the previous three. It’s the time after you’ve brought your sweet baby into the world and, while you’re soaking up that sweet baby scent and marveling at the miracle of childbirth, you might also feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and uncertain about what comes next.
Mama, if you’re feeling this way, know you are not alone. Whether it’s your first or fifth baby, postpartum is a unique experience every time, and navigating this new chapter can be challenging. So let’s dive in and talk about how you can find support, love, and balance during this beautiful, messy, and transformative time.
Doulas Aren’t Just for Birth—They’re for Postpartum Too!
When you think of a doula, you might picture a calm presence by your side during labor. But did you know there are doulas who specialize in the postpartum period? Postpartum doulas are like magical fairies who help take care of YOU, so you can focus on your new baby.
These doulas provide a wide range of support, from assisting with newborn care to helping around the house with tasks like laundry and meal prep. They’re also an incredible emotional support system during this period of transition. If you’ve never considered hiring a doula for the postpartum phase, now might be the perfect time to think about it! It’s like having a cheerleader, therapist, and wise aunt all wrapped into one. If you’re in Southeastern MA, I invite you to check out my services—let’s get you the support you deserve.
Miracle Workers: Lactation Consultants
Breastfeeding is natural, but let’s face it—it doesn’t always come easily. If you’re struggling with latch issues, low milk supply, or just don’t know how to make it all work, a lactation consultant can be an absolute game-changer. These experts are trained to help with everything breastfeeding-related, from positioning your baby to troubleshooting common challenges.
If breastfeeding is proving difficult, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. And if breastfeeding just isn’t working for you, a lactation consultant can guide you through the process of formula feeding without any guilt. Fed is best, mama. Remember, you are doing your best, and your baby will thrive with the nourishment you provide.
Your Mental Health Matters: Seek Therapy
Motherhood can be incredibly fulfilling, but it can also bring up feelings of anxiety, depression, or overwhelm. The postpartum period is often an emotional rollercoaster, and if you’re feeling anxious or down, seeking therapy can be a huge help. Postpartum depression and anxiety are more common than many realize, and there’s absolutely no shame in seeking professional support.
Whether you prefer in-person counseling or online therapy, talking to someone who understands the specific challenges of new motherhood can help you feel seen, heard, and supported. You don’t have to navigate this journey on your own. Your mental health is just as important as your baby’s health—don’t hesitate to take care of yourself.
Family Support: Setting Boundaries & Asking for Help
Family can be an amazing source of support after birth, but it’s important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries too. Sometimes, family members will be eager to hold your baby, but less excited to help with laundry or cooking. It’s okay to ask for exactly what you need.
If you’re feeling exhausted, ask your partner or a trusted friend to take the baby for an hour so you can nap or shower. You’d be surprised how rejuvenating a short break can be! And if you need help with meals or cleaning, don’t be afraid to ask. People love to help new moms, and allowing them to do so can make a big difference in how you feel.
Self-Care: Small Steps to Recharge
Self-care isn’t just about indulgent spa days (though if you can make that happen, go for it!). It’s about the little things you do every day to take care of yourself. Take five minutes to sip a cup of tea while your baby naps. Binge-watch your favorite show while breastfeeding. Ask your partner to take over for an hour so you can enjoy a long, hot shower.
Every small moment of self-care adds up. And remember, it’s okay to not be okay some days. You’ve just gone through a major life transition, and it’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions. Give yourself grace—this journey is a process, and some days will feel easier than others. Both are perfectly normal.
Exercise: Move in a Way That Feels Good
After giving birth, your body will feel different. You may feel ready to jump back into your pre-pregnancy fitness routine, or you might feel like getting out of bed is a workout in itself—and both are completely fine! Exercise is great for your mental and physical health, but there’s no rush.
If you feel up to it, start with gentle movements like postpartum yoga or a short walk around the block. Listen to your body, and remember that every little bit of movement is a win. Exercise should feel good, not like an obligation.
Plant-Based Diet: Nourish Your Body from the Inside Out
Eating well is crucial during the postpartum period because your body needs fuel to recover. A plant-based diet can be a fantastic way to nourish yourself with vitamins and nutrients, especially if you’re breastfeeding. Think leafy greens, whole grains, beans, and nuts. But remember—don’t stress about being perfect. If you’re too tired to cook, order in or ask a family member to bring over some healthy meals. Balance is key, and your meals should nourish you—not add more stress.
Yoga: Finding Calm in the Chaos
Yoga can be a beautiful way to reconnect with your body and mind after birth. Even just a few minutes of gentle stretching or deep breathing can help you feel more centered and calm. Postpartum yoga is designed to be gentle on your body as it heals, and you can find many great online classes specifically for postpartum recovery.
If yoga isn’t your thing, that’s okay! The key is finding something that helps you relax, unwind, and feel good in your body again.
Lean on Your Tribe: Friendships Matter
Postpartum can feel isolating, especially if you’re spending a lot of time at home with your baby. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends—particularly those who’ve been through the same experience. They’ll understand what you’re going through and can offer advice, support, or simply a listening ear.
If you’re the friend of someone who’s just had a baby, check in with them. They need you, even if they don’t always ask for help. And if you don’t have many mom friends, consider joining a local or online mom group. Connecting with other moms who understand what you’re going through can provide a huge sense of relief.
Time Alone: It’s Okay to Crave It
Here’s a little secret: It’s okay to want time alone after you’ve had a baby. Whether it’s a quiet walk, an uninterrupted bath, or simply sitting in a room by yourself for ten minutes, alone time is essential for your mental health. Don’t feel guilty about asking your partner, family, or a trusted friend to watch the baby while you take a breather. Alone time doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you a human mom.
Postpartum Is Different for Everyone
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to postpartum recovery. Some women bounce back quickly, while others may take longer to feel physically and emotionally balanced again. Be patient with yourself and trust the process. Some days will feel incredible, while others may be challenging—and that’s perfectly okay.
Remember, It’s All About Love
Above all, postpartum is a season of change—big change. Your body has changed, your family has expanded, and your priorities may shift. But there’s one thing that will always remain constant: love. Love for your baby, love for your family, and love for yourself.
Take a deep breath, mama—you’ve got this. Be gentle with yourself, seek support when you need it, and never forget that you are worthy of all the love and care you give to others.
Always remember, You are capable of amazing things, and You are worthy of your wildest dreams!
Until next time, friend!
XOXO,
Valerie
Your Doula & Transformation Coach
